All these studies together show that money, fame and sex eventually bring us addiction, isolation and unhappiness. Yet scientists say it is in our DNA to want these things because we are supposed to procreate and populate the earth, and we need money, power and fame to do it. But here’s the thing: Mother Nature doesn’t really care if we are happy or not. So our humanity drives us to these things that make us miserable. And if you want to steer clear of it all, it seems like it’s a constant battle.
What does free us from all this? I was talking recently with the mother of my son Jordan’s new college roommate. My new best friend. We were discussing how we were going to deal with our empty nests – with both our boys going off to college. She said that we had to find our “flow activities.” Say what? She told me a flow activity is one that inspires and challenges you, but does not cause you stress. A flow activity is one in which you are so engaged that you lose track of time. It has to be an activity you think of as voluntary, enjoyable, but with clear goals to success. Could be taking up an instrument you always wanted to play. Painting. Taking care of dogs at a shelter. For my new friend, it was gardening.