Being a disciple of the “one day at a time” approach advocated by 12-step recovery, making New Year’s resolutions is something I know I should avoid. Yet, being given a clean slate, as January seems to offer, is a mighty tempting offer. It’s tempting to peer into the vast newness that is 2013 and make promises to myself to do things better. Some of the resolutions floating around in my head: I will get to bed earlier. I will get back on track with my exercise routine. I will really finish books, not just start them. I will plant a vegetable garden. And so on.
Who doesn’t want to turn over a new leaf, embark on new adventures or not repeat the same mistakes? Who doesn’t want a chance to leave awkward moments and painful experiences in the past and start again? And yet, I know I can resolve to do this anytime, not just on January 1. Each day is a day to savor. Each day is one where I can keep my highest ideals in the fore, but also trust in the process of experiencing, making mistakes and learning that is everyday life.
I believe that starting again – being willing to give my relationships and my dreams another go – is central to my emotional and spiritual growth. And, if I falter along the way, my hope is that I can forgive myself, make adjustments in my expectations and begin again.
May we each find the resolve not to beat ourselves up with unrealistic demands. May we find the courage to try new things and patience with ourselves and the journey.